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Earning Respect, Not Wearing It

FM’s high school in Chardon, OH has been in a swirl of controversy regarding this year’s graduation ceremony. Two of their graduating seniors finished their necessary high school credits early and went through military basic training: one in the Marines and one in the Army. Congratulations to both of them on their accomplishments. They went back to their high school to participate in the graduation ceremony. 

The controversy began when they made a request to the Principal to wear their uniforms, rather than the traditional cap & gown, at the graduation ceremony. When the Principal said “No”, but offered a couple of options, they decided to make a fuss and, of course, in the current youth’s attitude of entitlement, decided to take it to the media.

One of the options was they participate in the Honor Guard and post the flags. Once the flags were posted, they would be introduced to the assembly. Then they could change their clothes and sit with their classmates and receive their respective diplomas. Sounds reasonable to me. Unfortunately, not so much for the newly minted Privates.

I can totally understand why a young 18 year old would want to wear the uniform, it certainly gives an air of confidence, discipline and looks darn good. They would have garnered an inordinate amount of attention while everyone else wore the traditional cap and gown.

From a Protocol point of view, I completely understand the Principal’s decision but, more importantly, from a personal point of view, I don’t see it as a “slap in the face” to all those who wear the uniform. FM certainly doesn’t see it as a slight in any way. When he’s not at an official function, he’s more than happy to wear his civilian clothes. Someone needs to tell those Privates, forcing a school to allow you to wear the uniform at their ceremony, does not earn you respect. Respect for the uniform comes from the hard work, long hours, grueling deployments and a host of other factors. I can usually tell when someone is a part of the military whether they are in or out of their uniform. There’s an air of confidence ( and usually a “hard body”) that you don’t see often in civilian men.

Several websites have covered this subject and have allowed people to voice their opinions. Some people have suggested the Privates wear the uniform UNDER the cap and gown. This is a big no no when wearing any military uniform. There should be no mixing of civilian clothing and uniforms. There are pages and pages of uniform regulations regarding what you can and cannot wear with the uniform. For goodness sakes, you can’t even use an umbrella while in uniform. And to cover up the uniform with civilian attire would be disgraceful.

Other people went further and suggested they wear it under the gown, then when they get their diploma, rip off the gown while still on stage. My hope is that suggestion came from those who know nothing about military pride because no one I know in the Army would pull such a cowardly stunt just to make their point.

If these Privates had taken the time to check with their chain of command and the Army Protocol Office, they should have gotten some sage advice. They should have been told, the high school graduation is NOT an official military event and, according to uniform regulations (AR 670-1), it specifically states that in a private ceremony, the HOST designates whether or not military attendees should wear the uniform. You don’t force your uniform on a private ceremony. 

I do worry a little that these Privates are heading off to their units and I can’t help but wonder how they’re going to react when they don’t agree with their Platoon Sergeant. Will it be another, “Hello, Fox News, (insert whine)” 

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Keeping it in Perspective

FM ran the Ottawa Marathon yesterday so we were out of town all weekend. We arrived back home today around 4:30 and found out about a BBQ at a friend’s house at 5:00 pm. They were hosting the parents of a fallen soldier who had come into town to attend their son’s “memorial ride.” Their son was a part of FM’s unit and was killed last year on 1 June. Although I was tired from the trip, it was more important for us to meet the parents who had lost so much and to offer whatever support we could.

I’m so glad we met them ~ they are an interesting and gracious couple. They told us about the Travis Atkins Inaugural Memorial ride which raised money for the children of fallen soldiers. We already spoke about next year’s ride and will make sure we stay in town to participate. FM may have to borrow his Dad’s motorcycle 😉

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Remembering

Being from Hawaii, Memorial Day was always considered a somber day with many observances for those who were killed in the attack on Pearl Harbor. My mom was a very young girl when Pearl Harbor was attacked and those memories lived on through the next generation (me).

Sadly, when I moved away from Hawaii, I participated less and less in those Memorial Day ceremonies and by the time I lived in Atlanta, Memorial Day became the “official start of summer” weekend. Everyone made plans to go boating on the lake, etc. Not much in the way of remembering our heros.

Being married to the military has certainly changed all of that. Military men and women would never forget their friends and fallen soldiers. They are honored on every military post across the nation. And here at Ft. Drum, the surrounding community is very supportive and there are many Memorial Day observances off-base as well. You’d have to live under a rock not to know the true meaning of the day. That’s not to say we don’t enjoy the time off, the BBQs or traveling but it’s good to know that those who made the ulitimate sacrifice will NEVER be forgotten.  

I personally know several soldiers, who, because of their willingness to fight for freedom, will never be able to spend the long weekend with their families and friends. So I will take time on Monday to pray for them and all those throughout the years who gave their all for our country.  My heart fills with gratitude when I think of them and I say “THANK YOU!!!” for all those brave souls.  They will never be forgotten…

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Back From Atlanta

Atlanta is one of my favorite cities to visit so when I was invited to attend an Army Family Action Plan (AFAP) conference there this past week, I jumped at the chance. Not only is AFAP one of my favorite programs of the Army, but the location of the conference was ideal for me.

AFAP is an Army program which gives a voice to both Army Soldiers as well their family members. The issues are collected at each installation and are pushed up to the top leaders of the Army. The conference I attended this week was the mid-level AFAP conference. It’s a very professional and team-oriented way to decide on what issues should be prioritzed. The origins of AFAP dates back to 1983 when it was started by Army Spouses. We were in meetings all day (8-4:30) but they allowed us free time during the evenings which was perfect for me since my friend, Dave generously picked me up every night and off we went to dine and shop.

During the conference, I met intelligent and passionate representatives from all across the U.S. Our group of 13 had a variety of ranks from a Private to a Major as well as a couple of spouses. One of my favorite people at the conference was a mom of a Private out of Ft. Hood. I met her about 10 minutes after checking in and asked if she wanted to join me for a late lunch. We hit it off famously and ended up spending a lot of off time together. She’s a real go-getter and shows that the Family Readiness Groups can certainly gain a lot of insight from the inclusion of extended family members. When her son was deployed to Iraq, she started “Operation Pillow” in which she sent 1,200 pillows for his entire Squadron! She was very inspiring and my hope is we’ll keep in touch.

At night, I went into town and enjoyed some of Atlanta’s delicious restaurants. Dave rightly suggested a gem of a restaurant called The Flying Bisquit  ~ very yummy especially with their offering of a variety of vegetarian choices.

It looks like I got out of town just in time yesterday. My flight departed at 3:00 pm and later that evening a big storm blew through causing a lot of damage. The damaged area is where I spent most of my evenings.  Talk about good timing!

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We went to the see the Flint Creek Band at the USO on Ft. Drum last night.

Not only are they a great country band and the dance floor was packed the whole time, but they have hearts of gold. The band sponsored a platoon in Iraq and they sent LOTS of packages with goodies, cds, and even miscellaneous medical supplies to help the locals. The band also made a CD of their original songs for the members of the platoon. I spoke with a couple of guys who were in the platoon and they said the band was a super sponsor!

FM said a few words on behalf of the Battalion, presented a certificate of appreciation and battalion coins then three of the soldiers who were recipients of the packages got on stage and presented the band with a framed US Flag which flew in Iraq. It was very touching…

I got goosebumps when the band’s manager, Shannon, said she was so relieved the guys were back home since she felt such a bond with them. But they weren’t allowed to call her “mom” since she’s too young for that 🙂 It so warms my heart when I meet such supportive and giving people ~ we hear so much negative on TV and in print but there really are lots of genuine folks out there like the Flint Creek band who make a huge contribution to the soldiers. 

A BIG thanks to the band from me!!

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Honoring and Remembering

National Memorial Day, which was originally known as “Decoration Day”, was first observed on May 30, 1868. Today, Memorial Day is more celebrated as a holiday than what the occasion was originally meant to be. When people say “Happy Memorial Day” to me, I feel awkward and silent because I have no idea how to gracefully tell them how inappropriate the “happy” sentiment is.  I understand when someone says it ~ it is, after all, a day off for them and no doubt they will enjoy their day off. I know they mean no harm but what flashes through my mind is the ultimate sacrifice military men and women have made and the aftermath of their loss ~ the families left behind.

We must remember Memorial Day is set aside to honor of America’s military personnel who lost their lives in wars past and present. 

General John Logan (FG loves that name), dedicated this day to decorate the graves of the American Civil War dead. As time went on, it encompassed all those who sacrificed their lives for their nation, from the Revolutionary War to the present. In 1971, the “day” was changed from May 30th to the last Monday of May. 

Because Memorial Day was losing its importance in the minds of younger generations, the President made a proclamation in 2004 which gives a tangible action for people to do on Memorial day. The proclamation states…

…Today, all who wear the uniform of the United States are serving at a crucial hour in history, and each has answered a great call to serve our Nation on the front lines of freedom. As we continue to fight terrorism and promote peace and freedom-, let us pray for the safety and strength of our troops, for God’s blessing on them and their families, and for those who have lost loved ones. On this Memorial Day, we honor all of our fallen soldiers, their commitment to our country, and their legacy of patriotism and sacrifice. By giving their lives in the cause of freedom, these heroes have protected and inspired all Americans.

In respect for their devotion to America, the Congress, by a joint resolution approved on May 11, 1950, as amended (64 Stat. 158), has requested the President to issue a proclamation calling on the people of the United States to observe each Memorial Day as a day of prayer for permanent peace and designating a period on that day when the people of the United States might unite in prayer. The Congress, by Public Law 106-579, has also designated the minute beginning at 3:00 p.m. local time on that day as a time for all Americans to observe the National Moment of Remembrance.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, GEORGE W. BUSH, President of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim Memorial Day, May 31, 2004, as a day of prayer for permanent peace, and I designate the hour beginning in each locality at 11:00 a.m. of that day as a time to unite in prayer. I also ask all Americans to observe the National Moment of Remembrance beginning at 3:00 p.m. local time on Memorial Day. I urge the press, radio, television, and all other media to participate in these observances.

I also request the Governors of the United States and the Commonwealth of Puerto Rico, and the appropriate officials of all units of government, to direct that the flag be flown at half-staff until noon on this Memorial Day on all buildings, grounds, and naval vessels throughout the United States, and in all areas under its jurisdiction and control. I also request the people of the United States to display the flag at half-staff from their homes for the customary forenoon period.

Please take time out of your day to honor all those who have made the ultimate sacrifice. May we never forget… 

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Historic Commissioning Ceremony

Updateclick here to see the ceremony. 

On 17 May (Thursday), the President of the United States will host the the First Joint Commissioning Ceremony at the White House.  There will be 55 Cadets taking their oaths and Cadet Bamba from the University of Guam (UOG) will be one of only 23 Army ROTC candidates. It’s an honor to be one of the chosen few and it’s a proud moment for the Cadet & his family, the UOG Army ROTC program and for Guam itself. 

Personally, it warms my heart that Cadet Bamba was chosen. I’ve had a chance to meet him a few times and he is a confident, very competent yet humble young man.

I hope the Guam media is all over this story ~ the Pacific Daily News headlines this morning was all about rampant youth violence and I would so prefer to see a good news headline tomorrow or Friday regarding the honor of being commissioned by President Bush.

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Memories and Great Sadness

This week brings back very difficult, sad memories from two years ago when FM’s unit lost a lot of good men during the battle of Fallujah. No matter what I’ve been doing this weekend, my thoughts drift back to those awful days in November 2004. My friend, Heidi and her terrible loss 2 years ago has been on my mind even more intensely than usual. 

Throughout her terrible ordeal, she’s always handled herself with grace and she honors her husband, Sean, in everything she does:

Last night, as I was watching yet another episode of Law and Order, FM came in and asked me to change the channel to FOX news. A familiar face was on the TV. It was SSG(Ret) David Bellavia and he spoke at length about his time in Iraq with A Co. and how difficult it was to lose his Company Commander, CPT Sims and his Company Executive Officer, Lt Iwan and the Battalion Command Sergeant Major, CSM Faulkenburg.  He also spoke of the importance to not “cut and run” from Iraq and how we need to give the Iraqi people a chance at democracy. SSG Bellavia earned a Silver Star for his contributions in Iraq and also was up (and I think he still is) for a Medal of Honor.

About an hour later, FM once again called for me to watch something else on FOX and this time I saw SGT Mock on the TV.  The last time I saw him was at the 2-2 IN Welcome Home Ball and remembered him to be so polite, well spoken and nice ~ and so young, only 21 years old at the time of the ball.

As the FOX news clip played, I felt very unsettled. Why were they showing footage from two years ago? At the end of the interview, SGT Mock said something to the effect of: I will never attend another Memorial Day or Verteran’s Day event without thinking of all the men who gave their lives here (in Fallujah). Whew, I thought to myself ~ it’s just a Veteran’s Day piece. Unfortunately, the reporter then said SGT Mock wouldn’t have that opportunity, he died on 22 October 2006. FM and I gasped and both said “Oh, NO” at the same time.  He’d been serving again with 1ID but this time with 1-26 IN, 2nd Brigade. My prayers go out to his family who are in Kansas and I imagine he’s had another kind welcome home but this time he was greeted by all those great soldiers who went before him. 

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Veteran’s Day 2006

World War I officially ended on June 28, 1919, with the signing of the Treaty of Versailles. The actual fighting between the Allies and Germany, however, had ended seven months earlier with the armistice, which went into effect on the eleventh hour of the eleventh day of the eleventh month in 1918. Armistice Day, as November 11 became known, officially became a holiday in the United States in 1926, and a national holiday 12 years later. In 1954, the name was changed to Veterans Day to honor all U.S. veterans.

A heartfelt THANK YOU to all veterans.  Their committment requires that they leave their family and loved ones, they risk their lives and their health and for some, they make the ultimate sacrifice.  I appreciate all you do (or have done) to ensure our nation remains safe from those who seek to do us harm.

Poem to a Soldier  

It is the soldier, not the reporter, who has given us freedom of the press.

It is the soldier, not the poet, who has given us freedom of speech.

It is the soldier, not the campus organizer, who has given us the freedom to demonstrate.

It is the soldier, not the lawyer, who has given us a right to a fair trial.

It is the soldier, who salutes the flag, who serves under the flag, and whose coffin is draped by the flag.

                     by Father Denis Edward O’Brien, USMC

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On 2 Sept 1945, the Japanese officially surrendered on the deck of the USS Missouri in Tokyo Bay, bringing an end to World War II. 1,365 days earlier was the beginning of the U.S. entrance into WWII when the Japanese attacked Pearl Harbor. It’s fitting the USS Missouri is now a floating Naval Museum at Pearl Harbor.

We had the opportunity to visit the USS Missouri in May during a stopover in Hawaii on our way to Guam. FM is standing at the location where the surrender was signed. If you’re ever in Hawaii, the USS Missouri is well worth a visit. Very interesting history on board.

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